Every February, specifically on the 14th, a phenomenon emerges, characterized by a soothing atmosphere. A palette of vibrant reds and pinks, floral aromas, and storefronts offering not only chocolates but also blossoms fill the public sphere.

This serves as a symbolic expression of Valentine’s Day—an embodiment of commitment, mutual understanding, promises, and, above all, compassion. Originating in Rome during the 3rd century AD, Valentine’s Day commemorates the efforts of Saint Valentine, who defied the decrees of Emperor Claudius II.

Saint Valentine was sentenced on February 14th for his defiance of the Emperor’s prohibition on expressions of affection, particularly among soldiers. Due to his dedication to prioritizing humanity among the Roman people, February 14th was ultimately immortalized as Valentine’s Day—a symbol of humanitarianism and love.

In contrast to the depictions commonly found in social media and film, Valentine’s Day is not merely about romance; it is a journey of understanding, an exploration of how we open ourselves to others, and a process of overcoming prejudice.

In the pursuit of understanding compassion, the first step is the humanization of the self. "Before loving others, grant yourself the opportunity to understand and forgive yourself"—this profound sentiment suggests that compassion is not an instantaneous birth.

As we navigate through life, we sometimes become complacent in understanding who we truly are and why we have reached our current milestones. Although self-understanding is a difficult phase, reaching this point facilitates the opening of one’s heart to foster closer connections with others.

Once self-awareness is achieved, the next step in interpreting love and compassion involves the phase of conquering ego, fear, and obsession. In the book Mengapa Takut Kehilangan (Why Fear Loss), there is an intriguing discussion regarding the Greek myth of Narcissus. Narcissus, a handsome youth who captivated the public, possessed an ego that bred such arrogance that the gods cursed him to love his own reflection until the end of his life.

Reflecting on Narcissus, the desire for self-pride is a natural human trait that drives progressive life paths; however, it simultaneously stands in contradiction to compassion. Genuine love is not a form of excessive validation but rather a narrative written together.

The final step in defining compassion involves overcoming the fear that arises from intimacy. Inherently, the desire to be "seen" is a natural human inclination, especially by those with whom we share an emotional bond.

However, we are currently confronted by social standards and media portrayals that highlight compassion through material wealth, external validation, obsession, and physical appearance. While mutual effort is necessary to reach an understanding, Aristotle posited that true compassion is driven by mutual goodwill to grow toward a better life—or, in short, Eudaimonia.

Conversely, some argue that contradictions and differences of opinion in building affection can lead to obsession and paranoia. As the adage goes: "Fear leads to hate, hate leads to anger, and anger leads to suffering."

The philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre explained that compassion is a choice that, despite creating conflict, can fulfill our lives through the achievement of recognition, communion in freedom, and mutual commitment. True compassion is a moment where we understand each other's strengths and weaknesses, ultimately cultivating a sense of belonging—a "Home" built upon trust and sincere endeavor.